By Barbara Krantz, Hospice of Havasu Bereavement Counselor
While we are grieving the loss of a loved one or someone close to us it is important for us to ensure we are also taking care of ourselves. Forgetting to take care of ourselves can cause our bodies to break down, both physically and emotionally. In times of grief, we can often be overwhelmed with the many facets of grief and forget to take timeout for ourselves to heal and re-energize ourselves.
Some examples of taking care of ourselves can be as simple as: eating healthy, getting enough sleep, drinking enough water during the day, exercising and making sure to see our doctors as needed. Sometimes when we are grieving, sleep can be difficult and affecting our moods and how we are functioning during the day. If one is struggling with getting any sleep then it is best to see your doctor to help, make sure that you are getting the rest you need. The body needs at least 6 hours of sleep a night to function. If your body has anything less than the six hours, then the body operates as if you are drunk or have been drinking. In that aspect, the body is not able to perform at optimal performance due to the lack of sleep. When the body does not have what it needs to perform then the body struggles with being able to function properly.
Self-care is the one thing that most people neglect to do. When we get stressed or overwhelmed with life stressors then we often to take care of ourselves. We get into unhealthy habits such as binge eating, drinking, stop exercising, oversleep or sleep less, and many other things… For those who are grieving self-care is even more important because of the energy it takes from a person when we are grieving. When we cry or expel anger it drains us. Ever wonder why after a good cry you often feel like you could take a nap? That is why it is essential to find time for yourself and re-energize yourself.
Taking care of yourself is not selfish. You cannot pour from an empty cup. Think of what we are told when we get on a plane. What do the stewardesses say about putting the oxygen on? They always say to put the oxygen on yourself first and then your child because if we put it on them first there is no guarantee that you will be able to help them if needed because you gave them all of your oxygen. Same concept for ourselves. Be gentle with yourselves and take time for you whatever that is for you. Each one of us has different things that help vitalize us that we refuel our bodies.
If you or a loved one need help coping with grief, Hospice of Havasu provides grief support groups at no charge. Check our calendar for one that works with your schedule, or call 928-453-2111 and ask for the Bereavement Department.